Fact: it's not your classroom management that is to blame for their behaviour. There are just some students who need a different approach
Let me tell you a quick story. Early in my teaching career, I had exactly the same problem.
There would always be one or two pupils that challenged my classroom management, who refused to follow to my instructions (however reasonable). Worst of all, my heart would fall when those same children stopped and listened to certain other members of staff.
I wondered what my colleagues were doing that was different to me. It wasn't:
- About their seniority, because two of the three held similar positions to me in school
- Anything to do with gender (2 were women, 1 was a man)
- Or anything to do with age...
So I studied how they intervened when challenging pupils misbehaved. I copied and refined their approach. The wording they used. And before long, I was having success too.
Now, when I asked those same, difficult students from my class to stop talking, they stopped. I used scripts that stopped argumentative pupils in their tracks. I'd learnt how to give consequences that changed behaviour.
I felt calm, confident and in control. What's more - these were simple, powerful changes that anyone could make.
And these techniques have continued to serve me well - from teaching in mainstream education to working with permanently excluded children.